Love each other deeply... for love covers a multitude of sins...

Ever since we began planning for our wedding last month, I've been asked countless times "so he's proposed?" Until I have learnt to come up with a very politically correct "no, not officially" with a big smile so that people will be too embarassed to follow with a "how can like that?!"... hahahahha

I've always been a sucker for romanticism... which is substantially different from romance. While romance is a truthful love relationship between 2 people with a view to accompany each other until death parts them, I am beginning to learn that romanticism is an over-hyped idea that causes men and women to have unrealistic expectations on things that are not even of much significance to the endurance and wellbeing of the relationship.

The right romantic sequence would have been him secretly buying a ring for me and popping the question before telling me of his hopes for us to be married by beginning of 2009. And he did not follow this "right sequence", I have been chiding him, both subtly and straightforwardly. I must admit I was very upset, when he told me of his hopeful wedding date, and I realized he had not planned when to purchase the proposal ring or the proposal date nor method. And my typical female mind went on auto-pilot to assume "how serious is he about me if he doesn't even show me due respect to hope for a wedding even before asking for my hand?"

But through this near month of doing initial groundwork and preparation and speaking to friends I realised how happy they are for me and how much blessings I have from everyone... the message is always "i'm so happy for you". I realised, it's not important how the marriage begins... it is much more important how the marriage moves on and ends one day.

My mum's away for 10 days in China, and my brother, me and my dad have been left at home, maidless... it's been undoubtedly uncomfortable, but I digress. The point is Dad showed me an sms last night from Mum in Chinese "Dear, it's our 31st anniversary today, do u remember? Miss me? How are the 2 kids?" and Dad's reply was (i recall loosely) "All ok, give u a hug, happy anniv, where u now?" 31 years of marriage, out of which, my mum spent 10-15 years of it taking care of us 3 kiddos as a fulltime housewife, and being wife to a husband who works from Monday to Saturday 9am to 10pm, and many Sundays waiting with kids for hubby to finish OT in the afternoon. I commend them and I can only imagine how difficult it is to keep that love, patience and trust.

All these, is the essence of romance... and how much is romanticism worth compared to all this? It's like believing Christmas is all about Santa Claus, and forgetting it's really about the birth, life and sacrifice Christ made, and the grace of God.

anyway... he gave me this and officially asked me if I would marry him today, and I said Yes!... As long as we love and treasure each other, all else is of little consequence...


And we've picked the theme verse for the wedding... "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."... Christ-centered Forgiveness and Love make the foundations of a God-blessed marriage...